What we can glean from watching television…
It is early November and many new college students are fast approaching that first visit home for the holidays. And it could be that many parents might be in for a surprise. Parents may find themselves facing the startling news that their young college student has developed some bad habits while being away at college.
We got to thinking about this today because last evening we watched an episode of NBC’s PARENTHOOD and early this morning a couple of news stories caught our attention.
PARENTHOOD’s depiction of dorm life at UC Berkeley…
If you are not a regular viewer of PARENTHOOD, here is a very tight synopsis, provided by the PARENTHOOD’s website, of what happened last evening between to two UC Berkeley freshmen, Drew and Natalie.
While studying in his dorm room, Drew is interrupted by a knock from Natalie, completely wasted and obviously horny. Drew remains clueless until she throws herself at him. He’s not going to complain! However, in the morning, everything’s back to normal. Does she even remember last night?
ABC News covers binge drinking at UC Berkeley
This morning we watched with interest as ABC News KGO-San Francisco covered a news story of how binge drinking at UC Berkeley is putting a strain on the City of Berkeley’s EMS System.
If you are having trouble viewing the video, you can see it here.
FOMO (Fear of missing out)
In the world we live in we all find ourselves always “checking” social media. Some older adults will set limits for themselves, vowing only to check Facebook or their email once per day. But you know the feeling; you can sit in a restaurant and watch a family of four consume an entire meal without ever looking at each other. Why? Because each person has their hand-held device and they are all may be suffering from FOMO!
Young teens and young adults almost always want to fit in. They yearn to be part of the in-crowd. Aiden Cochrane of the University of Virginia wrote in The Cavalier Daily:
“To me, FOMO is the anxiety created when we must choose a single course of action at the expense of missing out on a number of appealing others. More drastic cases of FOMO can make the patients take part in an activity — that their better judgment would normally preclude — for the sole reason of being too afraid to miss out on any sort of experience, with enjoyment not even guaranteed.”
Parents and family members should be aware as the holidays approach…
As the holidays approach and hopefully you have a few extra hours to sit down with your teenager or young adult child to really talk about their life and how things are going. It is important to remember when our children are unsafe, we don’t feel safe and engaging in addictive behavior (like binge drinking) is very unsafe.
Often, parents inflict excess suffering upon themselves by thinking that they are at fault for their child’s addiction or that somehow they could have done something different to prevent it. This is not the case. Teens and young adults face an inordinate amount of pressure from peers and are increasingly exposed to drugs in social situations. When the rebelliousness seems to no longer be a phase and your child has become increasingly withdrawn, depressed and isolated, it is time to seek help.
Teens are at greater risk of overdose because of the high rates of those who engage in prescription drug abuse and drug cocktails. Every year thousands of parents in the US get help for their children through interventions and proper placement in drug treatment programs. Even if your child is in high school or college, treatment for their addiction must be a priority. With the prominence of addiction in teens and young adults, educational institutions work with parents and communities understand. Most parents feel as though they have already lost their child, and they have to an extent – as the addiction has taken over their child’s sense of logic, responsibility and life aspirations. These do come back however after learning how to live life without drugs and alcohol regardless of outside pressure from friends and peers. To learn more about how this is possible and what steps can be taken, contact us.